What are the ingredients of a successful marriage?

Have you ever wondered about what are the ingredients of a successful marriage? Well if you have not till now, would it too much to ask you to think about it? I don’t’ think there is any harm in discussing that as nowadays we are so much engrossed with stories of broken marriages that we would like to hear some positive features that can make a marriage tick. A few of us may want to know the secret recipe that can make a marriage survive all the ills of time that tests our stability.

This article revolves around the possibilities of how can you make a marriage in a creative way. In fact there is nothing called a secret ingredient that can make a marriage work. The ingredient rests in your own hands which is more about situation handling and moving on with your better half. Here are a few ways by which you can make the difference according to me. It is not important that you have to agree with me, but in my short span of 2 years of conjugal life I have learnt these few things that are discussed as follows.

For that the first thing you need to do is to put in all your efforts to make your partner believe in the bond that you two have made. Yes marriage is a bond between to individuals that should be well understood and then invested in with care. In order to make your partner believe in this, you need to have faith in more than anyone else. Remember this is a subtle fact that cannot be expressed through words but by behavior.

We have been taught that the institution of marriage is a social contract between two people. Have you ever thought about this discourse from any other perspective? Okay the truth I have and I found a meaning that is completely different from what we think of it. This social contract to me indicates a connection that can be termed as friendship. Now you may agree with me as this simplification can add a brand new definition to the institution of marriage. To make things simple I would like mention here that companionship should be base of marriage. This can solve many a problem if two people can understand each other like friends.

In relation to this it needs to be stated that you can communicate with your partner freely like a friend that can bring a change without any doubts. Treat your partner like a friend and things will become easier. Nevertheless do not forget that you need to know your boundaries while doing so. This means respect your spouse like a friend but maintain a line of respect as he or she is your better.

Setting these restrictions symbolize that you are ready to give them the required space as well. This is very important which comes next to communication. Both these aspects can come to you naturally if and only if you think your cohort to be a friend more than a life partner. Along with this a dash of love more than they need and a sprinkle of sex more than they can take can a super ingredient for a successful marriage for sure.

Do you really know what men yearn for while in a relationship….Think again….

Do you really know what men yearn for while in a relationship? If you think yes then think again. You may assume that you know about the needs of a man you are in a relationship with. You do everything and then that relationship does not work out and as usual you blame the guy. Is it fair? Do you actually know why has this happened? Well the truth is honestly if you did, then you would not have drifted away. So chances are that you don’t.

This is something that I am sharing once again from personal experience. The first thing that makes any relationship work is to start it on a positive note. In other words you should get into a relationship thinking that it will work. Do not leave any scopes for it to slip away. Yes but that does not mean that you should suffocate your man with too much of love. This is something that they don’t like. For instance you may find it sweet and nice to call him after every half an hour, however it may not be something that he may like. Hence what you can deduce from this is that you should give them space to breathe. Fine call and talk to him expressing how much you love him but not too often.

Men prefer women who can maintain their dignity. Of course your respect is in your own hands. You may call him but he may not respond. You surely would not like this to happen, am I not right? When such a time comes then you know that the relationship is heading towards the rock bottom. Most importantly behave your age, show maturity and be responsible. Acting like a child cannot hearts for sure. This means you need to be careful about your behavior in a comprehensive way.

I have observed this that men fall for smarter women. My husband used to tell me that whenever he spoke to me, he found positive signs in me. He found me informative and said that he used to learn something every time we communicated. Not that we used to share any kind of intellectual discussion, but I remember of not talking ill of anyone. That is our conversation was free of nagging, complaining or backbiting. In addition to this I never used to bore him with girl talk. That I usually restrict to my gang of girls which should not reach him.

Another fact that you need to know about men and their relationships is that they look for that motherly love and care they are used to. The moment they find even something similar to that, they would not let go of it. That is they want women who can provide them emotional security in the very first place. The second aspect in this context would be that of total commitment that they want from you like their mothers are to them. This is a truth that can help you strengthen your relationship.

In conclusion it can be said that you need to know where to draw the line. In relation to this you need to know where and how to stop him prudently. You know what I mean obviously. Remember one thing that a man can make bungalows, mansions, condos, apartments but it is a woman who makes it a home for them. You have the power to do so with your patience, courage and sensitivity. Go ahead and make that difference in someone’s life as it will be worth it.