An honest confession, I have this habit of
gifting people around. I don’t know why? Actually this runs n the family and I
have this weird habit of buying gifts for people I like which could be friends,
family or even an acquaintance! I fail to understand is this a good habit or a
bad one.
It could be a special occasion like a
birthday, an anniversary or just like that I may have gone shopping and have
liked something for somebody. Now I just want whoever is this reading to tell
me that this is a good habit or is it really a bad one? The reason I am asking you all this is because
more than often I find my relatives and friends telling me “Oh, so nice of you
and thanks for this one.”
So far so good, but the real problem starts
when I see them putting up an act of innocence and saying “But dear I really
can’t afford to give you such expensive/nice gifts!” My question is did I even
ask for that? Why act defensive when there is no need. I am sure that you all
may have come across such people in your lives as well. So I just want to
understand where I stand. Should I try and restrain myself to get rid of this
habit of mine or should I simply go on gifting people the way I like treating them
as they make me feel comfortable?
Whether it is a birthday gift or an anniversary gift, my point is I like them, which is why I am doing the least that I can in my humble ways. I am trying to show it to them
that I may not call on them every day but I certainly remember them and buying
presents for them is a sweet of expressing that.
I don’t
want you to tell me “I wish I could buy something like that the day I have
money.” What I understand from this is either you should not buy me such
presents anymore, which is not possible as everyone likes surprises. The second
point of view is yeah “I like your gifts, don’t stop, but certainly don't expect me to return you same the
favor.” Either ways make it clear and tell me that you don’t want it from me. No I guess, these are people who will not as they like the presents but feel inferior when
I give away things for free with no expectations from them. I guess this could
be it, or else why would people say that “I can’t return you the favor!” It
kills my spirit and at times I feel suffocated that I have emotionally invested
in the wrong person for sure.
Look
either you reciprocate the same or you don’t. Frankly I don't want it from you, so why bother? I like it so I am buying you presents, I do not want you to do the same. Simple! As an adult and especially for
people who are older to me I expect that they will guide me about this. No instead
of this they tell me (especially referring to a set of people given to me by
the law of my land) that “I can’t afford this and that.” The worst line "I will someday." My suggestion is don't, please. I am not greedy, I am doing this because I like it and do not want to you to return me the favor. Save it for someone worth in your eyes. I would prefer if you could give me a sign that tells me “STOP” and “NO MORE” which never happens
in reality. Okay you can stop accepting it, if you can’t afford it. Then please tell
me that you don’t want anything from me loud and clear. Come on don’t be a
hypocrite!
Do I
deserve this? I don’t know you tell me. Gifts are a way to express your love and
like for someone. I believe that by gifting I am showing them that I care for
them and their contributions in my life. What I deduce from this is that I
probably am choosing the wrong contributors!
yeah i have this habit too.
ReplyDeleteAt times it bugs me this way...really!!! Oh thanks for reading the post :)
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Thank you for reading it and understanding my views :)
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